By Jamie Bosse, CFP®, RFC, CCFC
At any point in life, making the right financial decisions is a good thing. However, it’s especially important when you know you’re headed for a major financial disruption such as a divorce. Each person’s situation is different, but in many cases, these financial moves to make before you get divorced can help you prepare for your impending divorce.
1. Get Organized
Making the right financial moves before a divorce starts with gathering your financial documents. To help streamline your planning, save all these documents in one place, make hard copies, or do both:
- Insurance policies
- Bank statements
- Retirement account statements
- Statements from other investment accounts
- Real property deeds
- Vehicle titles
- Documents for mortgages or other loans
These documents can be useful to your divorce attorney. Depending on your situation, your legal team may request that you provide other financial documents as well.
2. Inventory Your Assets
When it comes to splitting up property in a divorce, Kansas is what’s known as an “equitable distribution” state. This means that courts aim to divide up assets in a way that is fair but not necessarily 50/50.
There’s a good chance that while much of your property is shared, you and your spouse each have separate property as well.
If you’re anticipating a divorce, one of the smartest financial moves is to make a list of your assets. Include the value of each one and who owns it. This process can be stressful and time-consuming, so be patient with yourself.
Taking an inventory of your assets can be helpful, but don’t worry if you can’t determine how your assets should be divided. If you and your spouse own a small business together or otherwise have a complex financial situation, your financial advisory team can help you through this challenging process.
3. Separate Your Finances
You don’t have to completely separate your finances before a divorce, and in many cases, you can’t. However, you should set up your own savings and checking accounts if you don’t have them already.
Divorce can quickly become acrimonious, and you need to have access to your own money if things go south.
However, it’s a good idea to consult with a financial advisor, an attorney, or both before making these financial moves. You don’t want to make it look like you’re hiding assets. Doing so is illegal, and it can significantly complicate your divorce.
Once you have your documents and accounts organized, the next step is understanding what day-to-day finances could look like during the transition.
4. Build a “Separation Budget”
Even if you don’t know the exact timeline for your divorce, it helps to create a realistic picture of what your monthly cash flow could look like if you’re no longer sharing expenses. Start by listing your essential bills and recurring costs, such as:
- Housing (mortgage or rent, utilities, maintenance)
- Insurance premiums (health, auto, home)
- Groceries and household spending
- Child-related expenses (childcare, activities, school costs)
- Transportation (car payment, gas, repairs)
- Debt payments (credit cards, student loans, personal loans)
If you currently pay bills from joint accounts, note which expenses are joint and which are specific to you. You don’t need every detail nailed down yet. The goal is to get a clearer sense of what your monthly expenses may look like and where the pinch points could be.
A financial advisor can help you organize this in a way that reflects your income sources, benefits, and any irregular cash flow (bonuses, commissions, business income), so you have a clearer view of what you’re working with.
Along with monthly expenses, it’s also worth taking a close look at debt and anything tied to your name.
5. Audit Your Debt and Credit
Divorce isn’t just about dividing assets. It’s also about understanding what debts exist, how they’re titled, and what’s tied to your name.
Start by making a list of all outstanding debts, including:
- Credit cards (joint and individual)
- Mortgages and home equity lines of credit
- Auto loans
- Student loans
- Personal loans
- Business-related debt (if applicable)
It can also help to pull your credit report so you can see what accounts are open and which ones are reporting under your name. If you find accounts you don’t recognize or balances that don’t match your records, make note of them and discuss them with your attorney.
Even if a divorce agreement later assigns responsibility for a debt, lenders typically look at whoever signed for the loan or account. That’s why it’s worth understanding your exposure early and keeping an eye on accounts while the divorce process is unfolding.
6. Talk to a Professional
If you’ve never been through a divorce, determining what financial moves to make before your divorce and when can be confusing and exhausting. It’s wise for anyone going through a divorce to consult a financial advisor and an attorney, but it’s especially critical for anyone with a high net worth or a complex asset situation.
Attorneys and financial advisors can provide valuable guidance. When you work with them, you’re reminded that divorce isn’t a hurdle you have to handle alone.
Let Us Help You Make the Right Pre-Divorce Financial Moves
Are you planning to ask for a divorce in the near future? Or has your spouse recently blindsided you with the request? Either way, knowing what financial moves to make is a key part of shielding your future. At CGN Advisors, we understand the financial and emotional stresses that often come with divorce, and we’re prepared to offer you the support and guidance you need.
If you want to learn more about how our advisory team may be able to help you navigate pre-divorce financial moves, contact us online today. To schedule a meeting, call (785) 340-3434.
Frequently Asked Questions About Financial Preparation for Divorce
How do I financially prepare for divorce before filing?
Start by gathering key financial documents (bank and investment statements, retirement accounts, insurance policies, property records, and loan documents). From there, list your assets and debts, open your own checking and savings accounts if you don’t already have them, and map out a realistic monthly budget. Many people also find it helpful to review their credit report so they know which accounts are tied to their name.
Should I open a separate bank account before divorce?
In many situations, opening an individual checking and savings account can be a practical step, especially if you don’t currently have accounts in your name alone. That said, moving large sums or making sudden changes without guidance can create confusion and conflict. It’s often worth talking with an attorney and/or financial advisor first so your actions match the legal process and your specific situation.
How can I protect my credit during a divorce?
Yes, a credit report can show which credit cards or loans are open, whether any accounts are joint, and what balances are currently reporting under your name. That gives you a clearer picture of what obligations may still be connected to you while the divorce is in progress, and it can help you spot accounts you don’t recognize or balances that don’t match your records.
About Jamie
Jamie Bosse, CFP®, RFC, CCFC, is a Senior Advisor at CGN Advisors, a Fee-Only, financial advisory firm based in Manhattan, Kansas. In her role, Jamie works with individuals and families to organize their financial lives, maximize their human capital, and move closer to their life goals. She specializes in working with parents in their 30s and 40s, a life stage where many can feel “stuck” balancing career advancement, family time, and financial goals. Jamie helps clients navigate these competing priorities and make real progress. Her empathetic approach, grounded in her own experience as a working mother of four, resonates with clients, who appreciate her non-judgmental, forward-focused guidance. An advisor since 2004, Jamie finds immense satisfaction in partnering with clients on their financial journey. She loves hearing them say, “We are finally turning into the people we aspired to be.”
Selected from a nationwide pool based on her accomplishments, contributions, leadership, and promise, Jamie was named to the “Investment News 40 Under 40” list in 2020 and was part of the Leadership Manhattan Class of 2020. She is also a passionate advocate for financial literacy, creating educational videos and articles, and has been featured in the Kansas City Star, KC Parent, The Journal of Financial Planning, Manhattan Neighbors, The Register, Solutions, Investment Advisor Magazine, CNBC, and Kansas City PBS.
Jamie holds the CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER® designation, is a graduate of the Kansas State University Personal Financial Planning Program, and the author of Money Boss Mom: Helping Young Parents Be the “Boss” of Their Financial Future and the Milton the Money Savvy Pup children’s book series. Outside of work, she enjoys watching the K-State Wildcats and her kids’ soccer and baseball games. Her time is filled with hobbies including writing books, reading, traveling, and entertaining friends. To learn more about Jamie, connect with her on LinkedIn.
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